Saturday, February 27, 2010

13 year anniversary

Paul and I got married February 28, 1997 at the Justice of the Peace in Washington DC. Two days later I left to go to Saudi Arabia for 90 days. Somewhat a little different experience for most newlyweds but it worked for us.

Like any marriage we have definitely had our share of ups and downs. Initially it was just the distance and the fact we only knew each other 6 months when we got married. Then it was kids and finances, and all the normal things, but through it all we loved each other and knew we had something special.

October 2007 we renewed our vows and although it was thrown together in a small amount of time and it was very small it was perfect. My best friend Julie sent me a box with something new, something old, something blue and something borrowed. She gave her girl the hook up and I couldn't have asked for such a great bunch of gifts. It was our special day and it was right.

My kids are getting older and one day they will be grown and have their own lives and that day it will be just be Paul and I and I couldn't be happier with my choice of a life partner.

Saturday, February 20, 2010


For the past month off and on I have been packing all my household items. With my back I do not load or unload so I do almost all the packing. With that said, I began this process early considering we are moving effective 1 July 2010.

However the last weekend in May we are getting a Uhaul and moving everything but mattresses and TVs to the new house basement. Then June 7th Trae graduates, we will clean the old house, then the last week of June I am supposed to go to Orlando Florida for a week for work. When we come back from Orlando we will go straight to the new house.
I spend a lot of time writing blogs about issues with my kids but let me tell you one good thing about having older kids. Seems when it comes time to move all OUR friends are busy but my kids friends line the doors to help. Thank God for that. Buy a crap load of Chinese food and soft drinks and bam the house if full of strapping teenage boys willing to move without complaint.

Wednesday, February 10, 2010

and more snow

According to the news we have had more snow than ever in the DC metropolitan area. All I can say is since I left Alaska in 1997 I have never seen so much snow. I have forgotten how it is to wake up and shovel, slide and fall in this not so soft white stuff. The Federal Government has been closed all week and although it's strictly for safety reasons, I can say I am loving life. Staying up till 4 am watching movies with my family, packing, cleaning, cooking, laundry. I love it, I can't remember the last time I actually took an entire week off work. The kids can't go anywhere so they are actually with us spending time with us and watching movies.

We spent hours going to every store in town looking for snow pants for Logan. Other than the $80.00 Columbia ones at a ski shop there was nothing. We were told by one retailer that we wouldn't find them within a 200 mile radius of our town. Not a mistake I will ever make again. Luckily a good friend knew someone that had some her son had outgrown so Logan has been in complete hog heaven.
For the first time in a long time I am totally enjoying the term "Snow day!"

Friday, February 5, 2010

Snow, Snow and More snow

The weather man has projected we are going to get anywhere from 2 to 3 feet of snow. It began about 10:00 a.m. today and it's been snowing since. I wonder now when I awake in the morning what will the ground look like? Will I see nothing but white? Piles or even mounds on top of every car in sight. Neighbors shoveling their driveways, brushing off their cars, kids throwing snowballs, slipping and sliding and sometimes falling.

Could life be any better? All three of my kids are home, the fire place is on, I'm on the couch with a warm blanket, watching a movie. We have plenty of food, and drinks and there is nothing I could think of that I need that I don't have right now.

Wednesday, February 3, 2010

Dinner but no movie

Last night me, Mr. Paul, Trae and his girlfriend Brook all met at Boston's for dinner. Brook hasn't spent any time with us and she felt as though we hated her. The only time she heard from us before would be when I emailed her mom about this or that and her mom would confront her so you can see where the disconnect might be.

Anyway I think initially we were all a little skeptical about meeting up but with four of us there the ice could be broken by any of us and the environment was good. I feel that we have done the best we could to raise Trae and his choice in a girl is his choice. It makes things much easier when you get along and that is what I intend on doing. If Trae is happy - I am happy.

It's not that I didn't like Brook in the past, I had some reservations for some reasons in which I am over now. Trae spends every possible moment at her house so we don't really know her. We don't know her personality, her likes and dislikes. Although I can say now she hates mayonnaise.

Also in my defense Trae has had two serious girlfriends prior to Brook and both of them I got close too and then when they broke up I felt bad too. One friend told me that the girlfriends come and go so not to get attached to them because it sucks letting go when the boy does. Well she was right so I think some of my reservations were simply not letting my guard down based on the past two girls.

Anyway, I have to say dinner was good, Brook ate her food actually which was a plus and the conversation flowed flawlessly.

Tuesday, February 2, 2010

Groundhog Day

What is groundhog Day? For most of us it's a joke we use to say "same old same old". I got up, went to work, went home, ate dinner, played with the kids, took a shower and went to bed so I could wake up tomorrow and do the same old thing all over again.

It's easy for us all to get in the groove of things but the reality of life is that one day we won't have it or won't be able to move about so easily so why not force ourselves to change things up a bit. Or let me ask if having groundhog day's is so bad after all?

Today I woke up for work another exhausting morning where I stayed up so totally too late, turned on my phone and while it booted up I began to brush my teeth. I scrolled down the randomness of my entries and saw a text from my son. Sent at 11:51 am it said "I love you so much mom. Goodnight". I stared at that text knowing my son thought of it, he took the time to write it all because?

Did I do anything in particular yesterday or last night to be rewarded but such a message? I don't believe so but what I had done was Groundhog Day. I had began my day as usual, and come home as normal, but also as normal I talked with my kids and listened as he discussed whatever with me. I was doing the things I have always done but my son decided that my groundhog day meant a lot to him and he decided to tell me what a difference I make in his life. I wonder if he had any idea how much such a simple message would mean to me?

You know maybe groundhog day isn't so bad for any of us, as long as in our days of nothingness we go to the trouble to make sure the ones we love know how much they mean to us. I have definitely made my share of mistakes but if there is one thing I do ensure I do is make sure my husband and kids know everyday how much they mean to me and how very much I love them.

Sure life has drama and I yell and I get pissed but ultimately I have lived my life for them. Everything I do is for them. As any parent I often wonder if I've been successful. My son's simple one lined text tells me I have. Groundhog day to me means a life full of love and I do make a difference.